Where does kindness come from?
We live in very busy times. We get up in the morning, wrestling with getting our kids out of bed, into some decent clothing and downstairs in time for some breakfast before brushing their teeth, finish filling their school bags with the last snacks before heading to the bus stop. No, no, you're not even close to being done, once they step onto the bus. You need to get yourself ready for school... ummm, I mean work (even though, sometimes it does feel like a school or daycare). 45min-1 hour in rush hour traffic to get to work on time or at least, not so late that your boss notices and makes some passive-aggressive comment about everyone else being on time, "must be nice to roll in whenever you feel like it, Rick!". And then you think straight back to Jason Bateman in Horrible Bosses and wonder, how would I get away with it?
Working 9 to 5 (don't you even dare, sing that out loud), rushing home to feed your kids, help them do their homework, bath, brush their teeth and bedtime with stories and maybe, time for a snuggle... Guess what tomorrow looks like? Overcast with a chance of the same damn thing, all over again!
We get overwhelmed by our incredibly busy lives and it's hard to stop, take a step back and look at other people. What if we did stop, lift our head ever so slightly to see who is sitting next to us, across from us or walking by? What if we took time to say something nice to one person, only one person per day? What if someone stopped, looked up at you and said one nice thing to you? Would it help or hurt you? I sure hope a compliment wouldn't hurt you cause that would suck!
What if tomorrow was different? What if you made one effort of saying something nice to someone, stranger, coworker, boss (even Jennifer Aniston needed some love)?
Remember the scene in "Pay It Forward", where the homeless man was helped by young Trevor, in a way that most, if not every other human, would just ignore, walk by or cast judgement upon? Trevor helped a fellow human, who in turn, tried to help the jumper, the woman who wanted to commit suicide. Did he save her, did he change her life or did Trevor, indirectly save her life? The point is, a compliment may or may not change someone’s life to the same degree but it' sure as hell doesn’t hurt it! That’s the point of a Nice RAK (Random Act of Kindness)!
My wife, before she became my wife, heck before she became my girlfriend, was going through some personal things and we were just randomly chatting, via text since we lived about 3000 Kms away from each other (that’s about 1900 miles in American) and once in a while, I’d just text her “Hey beautiful, hope you’re having a great day!” or “Hey pretty lady, hope you’re smiling today” or “Hi, wish you were in Calgary today!”. After a few weeks of random hellos, she asked me “How do you know when to send me those texts? Cause you always send them at the perfect time, when I really need to hear something nice from someone”. That’s the beauty of a RAK, you don’t know and it doesn’t cost you anything to say something nice to someone.
My challenge to you
Once per week, I challenge you to compliment a stranger/coworker/classmate (please keep it clean, cat-calling a woman does not come, even close to being an Act of Kindness) on their shoes, their hair, their smile, their homework, how lovely their kids are or meeting a deadline. It doesn’t matter what the compliment is, just be genuine about it.
Once per week, do something nice for someone like pay for the next person’s order at the drive-thru, add time to the parking meter when you see the MeterMaid coming, helping an elderly person cross the busy intersection or change someone’s tire since they don’t know how and don’t have AAA. Three years ago, we were going through and MacDonald’s drive-thru when I decided to pay for the car behind us. After we paid, we had to wait for our order so we pulled up. Within a few minutes, a young lady tapped on my wife’s window, asking to roll down the window. She was in tears, thanking us profusely for such a kind gesture. After chatting for a little while, we found out that her car was stolen that morning and she needed her mother to drive her to work and our Act of Kindness made her day! You never know…
If you film your Nice RAK, good. Send us the video and I’ll post it here. If you didn’t film it, send a quick paragraph on what you did, how it helped them and what it did for you. It’s never a bad thing to be kind, selfless and thoughtful! You may just put a smile on their face or you may indirectly save someone’s life… Love leads to better results than insults do, every single time!
Here is the link to my Facebook page, entitled, Nice RAK with tons of Random Acts of Kindness videos. If you ever need inspiration, this could help.